[Murphette]

I agree it took a lot of talking with people and family to start to get over the grieving process from my last failed IVF cycle. I'm lucky in that my boss and his wife have also suffered through infertility. They recently adopted a little girl from china. I get lots of time to talk with his wife who has been where I am and understands what we deal with (and is a mental health counselor as well) and it's been interesting to talk with him about it (he's very open) because he gives me information from his perspective (which had definitely helped me with dealing with my DH).

We decided to adopt through the State. When we started the required parenting classes we met quite a few couples in our class that have also gone through the pain of infertility. So we've started our own support group.

Good luck to you. I know it's so hard to deal with and to start trying to feel normal and make plans for the future, but remember to take as much time as YOU need to heal.