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I am claydos66's wife. He shared this website with me this morning, as well as his thread about our fertility issues.
I love love love that he (on his own) found this website as a support for himself. I myself have my own fertility forum that i go to.
he did leave a lot out about our "journey" And some of his fertility issues as well as my own and that is fine. Nobody needs to know everything.
He is a amazing supportive husband who would do and does do anything for me. And for this i am grateful.
As far as counseling goes. I have my own ideas about that. I think it is a great thing and at some point yes it may be a good thing for us. Not right now.
And as far as me wanting him to get a vasectomy, which janehill pointed out is this - His CHRONIC illness is not a fun one. I have seen him go through hell over and over again. I am now going through it with him again and it is affecting the both of us. I will stay by his side and take care of him and love him. But as i said before it is a chronic illness that can pop up at any given time. If he does not have any issues with donor sperm (which he does not. he is actually more on board with it than i am.) then lets get a vacesectomy done so he does not pass this illness on to our children or grandchildren. ( which he does believe in) That is where i was coming from with the whole vasectomy thing.
I and (WE) are NOT against using donor sperm. I think it is a great thing. And we actually picked out a donor whom we both chose together. Claydos66 is more adamant about using the donor because of his condition as well as the need for BOTH of us to have a child now. So again as i just said. I am NOT against using donor sperm. I just (naturally) am coming to terms with it all and realizing that this donor is not my husband and essentially i am having a (biological) child with a stranger. How lucky am i that my amazing husband is going to be the father!!!
JANEHILL, i do agree with you. My husband is a very good man. i am truly lucky to have him.
There is always more than meets the eye. please remember this.
Thank you all for the kind words of encouragement for my husband. I am soo glad that he found this site.
-Claydos66's wife!
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