Well, as they say....there is his side, her side and the truth. 
Your husband joined the group as you say "on his own" and sought support and understanding - and received that from a group of very kind and well-intentioned ladies.
No one can comment on more than what is shared. And as such the comment about a vasectomy was initiated by your spouse and certainly not in the context of he wanting the procedure. I think that's a pretty meaningful and personal decision one must be prepared to make without the pressure of their spouse - particularly a 26 year old man. But perhaps that's just my personal code.
Further and foremost, I'm sure you appreciate the ability to discuss, question, comment and vent on your own fertility forum without your husband's intrusion or correction. Consider that he may benefit from the same experience. Used properly, in fact, reading his posts may help you understand his perspective and concerns, which could prove more valuable than using this forum as an opportunity to publically "correct" him.
And please do reconsider the counseling.
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Jane (single) 41, low ovarian reserve
FSH (highest) 12.8 (Yikes!)
Have never TTC (but partnerless, I go it alone!)
 Liv & 2 cats (the most awesome fur kids on the planet!)
3/23 - IVF#1
CD3: Gonal F (450 iu/day), 15 cc low dose HCG
4/2 - IVF cancelled, converted to IUI 
(2-3 mature follies - 21mm, 19mm, 16mm)
4/2 - PM trigger shot of Ovidrel
4/3 & 4/4 - IUI's at 7am
4/13 - 
4/18 - Beta cancelled -  of course!!!
-Accepted to Duramed Clinical IVF Trial (Phase III of Progesterone Vaginal Ring)
-Also received first profile of donor embryo from my clinic two weeks after submitting application. The profile was eerie, I thought it was my application that they returned at first - that's how similar it was to ME and make-believe partner stats I included. Unreal! So...this is Plan B - already in place, which makes me feel very grateful. 
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