janehill,
I do not appreciate your response to my wife. You have taken my issue WAAAYY out of context and if you read it carefully coming from a guys perspective very early in the morning and in my overwhelmed state, with everything going on including a converstion my wife and I had till 2 am in the morning, you seem to have thought that I meant to make my wife look bad. That is the last thing I would want to do.
I would like to point out that I came on here on my own looking for ways to encourage my wife and make her feel better.
Yes this post is to help people. This includes my wife. We share everything with each other including thoughts, feelings, and yes even our posts to other people on advice. I normally do not extend the hand of forums due to this EXACT reason that someone takes something out of context such as yourself and runs with it.
Everyone else has shared with me and others viewing this thread their personal stories of using IUI / IVF with donor eggs or sperm and how they have coped with it.
To think, you would be more sympathetic about this issue doing treatments by yourself with another persons eggs and sperm. I'm sure you have lost ones yourself and you know how it feels. So please, lay off the inensative remarks about my wife and I. I came to this forum for help and you have pushed us into a corner.
Both my wife and I came onto the forum to see if anyone had replied back to me on my original post and when we read your first comment, my wife asked me if it would be ok if she responded. I sat next to her as she wrote her response and I agreed with everything that was in it 500%.
That being said, we both thank you for your great concern and my wife is commenting on what a strong woman you must be. My mother in law had kids young and is only about a couple years older than you. We can't imagine her going through this by herself right now.
And I mean with the thought of her having Grand-kids right now amazes her. Hopefully it will happen sooner than later. You never know.
My wife means the world to me. You publicly put her on trial for something that you have no idea about. We work out our own problems and talk like husband and wife. We have discussed counsling in the past and currently we have decided to wait on it until we we feel it is appropriate. It does not mean we are not going.
Again, thank you all for your wonderful responses.
