That's a tough one. Does she know about your IF stuff? If not, now might be a good time to tell her
Hard as it may be, you have to remember that you are her friend and that this is a happy time in her life and she wants to share it with you. Just get it out in the open what is to happen if you get a "sad attack" as I like to call them. If you are around her and suddenly tear up and need to run into the other room, your friend should know whether she is to run after you and cry with you or just leave you alone...that would depend on your personality. (I personally don't like group crying sessions, I like to be alone.) If she is a good friend, you are going to want to tell her all about your
when it is your time, so you should make sure you stay as close as you've been all along.
I don't really have a lot of close friends locally because the military moves me so darn much. I do have a pretty close friend though who got pregnant about the same time DH and I really started trying, tracking cycles and such. Her daughter will be two next month, and I am the only person who has ever babysat her. I think some people view my situation as "ready for children, don't have the obligations of having her own yet" i.e....perfect babysitter. I watch a lot of my friends' children, and I am ok with that. I avoided them at first, but realized that voluntarily being sad is not making my life any better. I love children, and even though they are not mine, just being around them makes me happy.
Hang in there girl, your time is coming!
