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I just came back from work. I walked one mile and it felt so good. It is a nice night.

Jen, I love your perpective. I really believe that IVF as a method worked for us, but it was bad luck. Both REs have insisted on this; that the chances of having a m/c because of genetic factors could happen years ago too.

I am from Lima, Peru. We came to US 7 years ago to get our masters degrees. We studied in Ann Arbor for a couple of years and then moved to Los Angeles. We opened a business with a group of classmates.

Missy, yes, IVF is cheaper in Peru. In June, I had: bw, u/s, histerescopy, ER, ZIFT and ET for $5,000. We paid everything with our own money. Besides the $$, and it is not because is my country, the care and dedication we got from my RE and his staff (his dad was my mom's OBGYN and delivered me; he was my OBGYN before coming to US) is AMAZING. He answers his cellphone (yes!) every time I have called him, including weekends and late nights.

Jana, calling your DH "Dr. Good Meat" is too cute!!

Jaime, I hope you are doing great and each day you are getting closer to your BFP.

As for putting a face to all those questions/interrogatories, and the fear of being analyzed and/or patronized, I got a lesson 2 nights ago. I was watching the Olympics. It was the Gymnatics competion. They were doing Floor (sorry, I don't know the exact name). Well there was a tie and because of the rules, Nastia Liukin (US) got the silver medal instead of gold. You could see she was pretty upset about the judge's decision and rules, but putting her best face she went out there to the medal ceremony and congratulated the chinese gymnast that won the gold.

I thougt: What a great lesson! I can handle those questions and comments about pregnancy. Since TTC and all the failures, I have avoided, hided from some friends. It was mostly because I felt defeated on "the making of family". At my age, every time you run into a friend the "how many kids question" arises. I won't hide anymore I will put my best face and give the possible best answer.

Some of my friends that knew I got pregnant after IVF, have also learned that I m/c (through other friends). Once I felt better I have called them and they were very supportive and told me they did not want to bother me in those days. Just some people do not know what to say (specially in the distance).

Now that $$ was mentioned.... Did you pay for auto-inmune testing? My insurance will cover 50%. I just want to calculate the magnitude of the damage.


Good night for everyone!!