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Well I guess I am the luckiest woman alive because when I married my Dh 7 years ago kids were the last thing on either of our minds. In fact I started thinking kids about 5 years ago, and both of us got in sync with it 3 years ago.
I was previously married to a man that I met young (19) and stayed with for the wrong reasons. When he wanted kids (he was 4 years older) I knew I had to leave. I wasn't ready, and I knew I didn't want them with him.
I knew from an early age that if I was ready for kids and didn't have a man in my life, I would find ways around it. Lots of wonderful women on this board did. I am very lucky because I have my soul mate.
Now my advice, don't settle for a man just to procreate. That is nuts. If you feel like your clock is ticking and you want to have children now, there are many other ways to go about it. You might want to reconsider your middle ground because 'settling' just to make a baby is not going to make you happy, and could end up very traumatic in the long run.
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