[bunniswife]

How well I can relate to this...My sister-in-law got pregnant sometime between my second and third miscarriage. Meanwhile, I was inundated with baby related activities because my in-laws were so excited to finally be getting the grandchild I was having problems giving them. They couldn't understand my reluctance to attend her shower or why I couldn't stand to go baby shopping with them. My mother-in-law angrily told me I was being selfish, that I should be happy for Susan. I felt like dying. When their son was born I didn't want to go see them in the hospital, in fact I cried the whole forty-five minute drive there while my husband sat in silence. Unbeknownst to us, I was already pregnant with our daughter but wouldn't find out unti eight days later. It was hard being there and putting on a happy face....Later, when we were accused of not being happy for Susan my reply was this..."It's not that we were unhappy for her, we were unhappy for us." People who have never had problems having a baby can't begin to understand how emotional this issue is. It's not until you try only to be disappointed over and over again that you begin to notice pregnant women everywhere, and suddenly your friends and family start popping up pregnant. They wonder why you're not overjoyed for them...these are usually the people who can't stand to listen to your pain when you really need to talk about not being able to conceive or losing a baby. It's too overwhelming for them, so they just pretend it never happened and can't understand why you can't do the same...I'm so sorry you're going through this. Huge Hugs