[yamensleh]

Originally Posted by abg9639

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 3 years. It is something I want more than anything. However, adoption is an open alternative to me if I am never able to conceive. I have 9 adopted siblings, so it is second nature to me. My husband, on the other hand, while open to the idea of adopting, refuses to accept the idea of adopting a child outside of our nationality... And since this is nothing new to me and my family I don't understand. It breaks my heart to think that he and I are not on the same page aout this. A child is a child, no matter what! I have a strong feeling that his family plays a large part in his stance on this subject, and I am cannot understand how he can be so closed-minded. Please let me know if any of you hve encountered this same problem and how you have dealt with it?

Yes, I have. My DH will not even consider the ideal of adoption and it breaks my heart. I always said I would adopt a child because there are so many children that need good homes. I was shocked when he told me and I can not understand. Then I read an article that said men don't feel like fathers until they hold a child in their arms and women feel it at conception. I am going to continue to pray about it. Good luck to you.