Hi girls. I was in the same place mentally and emotionally a while back. It took us three years to make a sibling for my DD who is 4 years old. We did 3 IVF's and 2 FETs and the final one worked for us. IUI's weren't an option for us unfortunately so we had to go straight to IVF. I didn't have insurance for it so found a couple of trial studiesy that covered IVF and the proceeding FETs. Unfortunately we lost a pregnancy along the way and it was devastating. I am fortunate to live in a mandated state and so changed my job so that I could get coverage. We spend quite a few thousand over the years getting to this stage but can't imagine the daunting prospect of having to fund it all ourselves. I feel for you.
We were seriously considering adoption also and I haven't ruled it out for the future. It truly is a wonderful thing, but definately something you want to be mentally prepared for I would imagine.
Sorry that you girls are struggling and feel hurt. It took us three years to conceive my daughter also and those were terribly painful years however the pain of secondary for me wasn't the same because she was here to love and cherish as you all do with your children. The worst part was the guilt of not knowing whether she'd ever had a sibling and she was getting to the stage when she was noticing other's around her with bigger families.
Good luck with your decisions and try and keep the hope alive of having another child one way or another.
