let me tell you... I had posted this on another thread so if you have already read it, I'm sorry but I felt like this was a better location!
let me just tell you about my situation. first of all, my sister is pg and only because she 'forgot' to take the bc that i gave her. my mother in law gets free samples from her work and had given me a years worth of the pill right before my DH and i started TTC. i gave them to my sis b/c i figured i wouldn't use them and if i needed more my mother in law would get me more. my sis claimed she forgot that i gave them to her and wasn't using anything until she went to the dr again. that was only 3 months after my DH and i started trying! and it would have been perfect if i would have gotten pg then b/c i am a teacher and would be due may 13 and have the summer off to enjoy the baby but instead it is my sister!
before my sis got pg, some friends of ours told us they were pg. it was the day after our first try of BDing after we started TTC. needless to say, their baby was born a few months ago. when i was telling my sis and mom about going to the hospital to see him, you will never guess what my sis said... 'that must be hard for you?!' i was like WTF? are you serious? you think that was hard for me? how about the fact that you are pg and you are not married, have a loser for a bf, you have no job... i could keep going but i will stop. i just couldn't believe that she made that comment.
shortly after that, a girl that i went to hs and college with found out that she was pg with twins. well, she ended up having a mc and lost both babies.
but the very first time that her dr said it was ok to try again, SHE GOT PG WITH TWINS AGAIN! luckily i don't see her that much, we have just been email and texting and stuff. otherwise i don't know what i would do. i feel bad that she had the mc but she gets 4 babies before i get 1?! what did i do to deserve this?!
i also teach pre-k in a very low income and un-educated area so on a daily basis i see pg moms of children in my class and other classes. i feel like saying 'why are you having another child? you don't care for the ones you have!'
as if all of those pple being pg wasn't enough, my first day back to school after the summer, another teacher i work with and i were comparing stories. we discovered that we were both TTC and were on the same CD. then, you guessed it, she got pg and i am still struggling. yeah, she had tried for a few months prior to that and i am happy for her but now i have to see her on a daily basis, watching her belly getting bigger and her getting more and more excited because she is having a girl (she alreay has a boy).
additionally, my cousin's wife is pg too but i am okay with that b/c they had tried for 3 years and she referred me to her dr b/c she said he was very good.
i cannot wait to see who else gets pg before me!
i don't know that it can get any worse! =(
this site has helped me to deal with all these situations better. i now know that i am not alone because for a while i thought i was.
sorry it is so long but thanks for listening!