[Melbee04]

Hello everyone. I recently found this site looking for some answers online after we got the news that our first attempt at IVF failed. My Fiance and I have been together 6 years and we've been TTC for 3+ years. I come from a family that has almost prided themselves on being super fertile. My grandmother came from a family of 9 siblings. My mother had 3 children and two miscarriages. My oldest sister had 4 children by the time she was 25. My other sister had two children with a couple miscarriages and a couple abortions in between. My cousins all have children with no problems, and it seems everywhere I look friends, aquaintances, strangers, celebrities are getting knocked up without even wanting or trying to. Angleina Jolie with 4 kids decides one day to try IVF (for what reason i don't think anyone will ever know) and it works out for her on the first try - oh and with twins!! Nicole Richie - someone who by all accounts appears to be anorexic and is probably on some sort of illegal narcotics - has a child and is once again pregnant. It all seems so UNFAIR! I'm sure the celebrities I mentioned are nice enough people and deserve the happiness we are all craving, but why is it so easy for some people and so diffifcult for others? I'm a good person, I take pretty good care of myself. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, I eat pretty well, I've done everything the doctors have told me to do.....why hasn't it happend? Anytime I try and discuss my "issues" with someone in my family it seems all they can say is "It'll happen when it's right" or "just relax, and give it time". I don't know how many more times I can hear that before I scream. This past week we had to give everyone the bad news that IVF hadn't worked and all they could say was how sorry they were...... I'm not saying I don't want the support, but how do you respond to that? It's almost like it made the situation harder. Anyway, needless to say this week has been one of the hardest in the past 3 years, I have to admit that It's somewhat of a small comfort to know that I'm not alone in the world, It's unfortunate that there are so many people out there that are going through, or have gone through, what we're going through; but it's nice to know there's a place like this to come to to find some solace. I wish everyone good luck in their journey's and.