I have been struggling with secondary infertility now for 19 months. I have tried to join several sites and support groups all of which do not want me there, because I already have one child.
This puts me in a position where I feel so alone. I didn't realize infertility was trying to see who hurt the most. Or telling someone they didn't hurt enough to be in a support group. I thought the pain was very similar, each having things that may make it harder or somewhat easier. And I have been unable to find a secondary infertility support group.
Some days I am at a point of frustration and sadness that I cannot even put into words. I have so much guilt. I hate all the waiting and wondering. I hate living my life by a calendar filled with doctor appointments and procedures. But I do it because I have hope. And as long as I have that one tiny strand of hope, I will keep hanging on.
I just wanted women on here to know I am working on a website, so far only 6 members, for women who are dealing with secondary infertility.
I did make a group for the primary infertile women as I do not share their struggles and do not know the pain they may be experiencing and I don't want to discriminate.
But the majority of the site is indeed for secondary infertile women. More then 1 million couples go through this and yet there if very little support. I find it ridiculous and disheartening.
If your like me and just want a place where you don't feel like you have to justify wanting another child, then I encourage you to join and talk to other women. You really aren't alone in this.
The website is
Secondary Infertility - Secondary Infertility Hurts Too
Thank you all for reading. I send lots of baby dust your way.
~Nikki