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I understand how you feel. We don't have the male factor issue, but I didn't much feel like it while we were going through all the procedures (thinking there's no point since I can't seem to get pregnant anyway or why us?) Then was IVF and no sex for the first 4 weeks (for us), then some spotting, and no sex until 18 weeks (though with how tired and/or nauseous I was I wasn't feeling it anyway). While I haven't exactly been distraught over the no sex thing, I do miss the closeness, so I've *ahem* helped DH help himself. There may be other alternatives as well if you're just not feeling it - watching a "movie" together, massage, etc. Before we were forbidden and it was just a mood thing for me, I'd actually try to initiate it by asking DH several hours before hand if he'd like to. That gave me the chance to get prepared mentally and (TMI here) physically if I needed to. Finally, if there's something specifically that you really like, ask for it, like a special massage oil and massage or position you like or scenario. Even maybe going to a hotel for a night would put you in the mood. Hope this helps and good luck!