Here's a more active forum for women in this situation that you may wish to visit -
Women over 40 with HIGH FSH / Infertility
Common things to try are accupuncture and chinese herbs, wheatgrass, a high-fsh friendly RE, low stim ivf. Dr. Check in NJ is very popular for women in this situation. Definately do your research, and find someone who isn't dismissive of your case.
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me - 40, one ovary, endo, hypothyroid from hashimoto's
dh - 38, fine
1/08-3/08 2 clomid iui's
cycles cancelled for cysts
7/08 started ivf#1, cancelled poor response
converted to iui
10/08 changed RE's due to insurance switch
horrible appt - told DOR, advised DE
figuring out what to do next
10/08 after much research decided to do ivf#2 with SIRM
Dec 08 ER - 3 eggs, 1 empty follie
12/9 3dt of 1 embie
12/19 10dp3dt Beta #1 - 42
12/23 14dp3dt Beta #2 - 105
12/29 20dp3dt Beta #3 - 161 game over
2/09 trying again
3/15 ER - only 2 eggs, 1 mature from 8 follies
3/18 3dt of near perfect 8 cell grade 1 embie
4/2 bfn
acu, herbs, roy jelly, coQ10, vit D3, resveratrol, pycnogonol
6/30 waiting for AF to start ivf#3 - natural

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6/30 beta#1 (approx. 14dpo) 239!
7/2 beta #2 (~16dpo) 614!!!!

7/15 u/s saw hb!
7/31 2nd u/s hr 179!! all good!!