Hi Doolsc - I apologize up front for taking the lazy way to explain the situation with my re.... here's a previous post that I had written about him...
"Now that time has passed and March madness is coming to an end, I'll give you a quick run down about what happened after retrieval. Out of the 7 eggs that the re retrieved, 3 were mature, 3 were immature, 1 was degenerated. So that left us with 3 and out of those only 2 fertilized. We did do a 5 day transfer (I held out for it). Speaking of the transfer, it was horrible. I was in so much pain that I was holding onto the sides of the table with tears running down my face. It took multiple attempts and each time hurt worse than the one before. What I don't understand is how during our iui cycles the nurses never had a problem and it was completely painless, but the re couldn't get it.
I think the worst part of if was that we felt that my re lied to us. You have to understand something about my re... he's really out there. You could have the worst looking embryos in the world and he would tell you that they are terrific. He's optimistically deceitful and takes the power of positive thinking way too far, bordering on being cruelly misleading. He told us on the day of the transfer that we had a beautiful looking blastocyst and other embryo was a little slower, but still hanging on and that he felt positive about this cycle. Prior to the transfer we implored him to be honest with us about the quality of the embryos. Don't get me wrong, I'm a true believer of positive thinking, but I'm also realistic and want medical facts... not sunshine blown up my rear end.
I should have known better than to believe what he said
. I didn't even make it to beta. I started bleeding a few days before it, but like a good girl I went in for my beta. While I was there, I asked about the grades of the embryos. The nurse wouldn't give me any answers and said that she would have an embryologist call. So I patiently waited for the call and was floored by what we found out. One embie was a 1cd and the other a 1d. In most practices a 1 is the highest grade given, but no, not in ours... 1 is the worst.
Anyway, I needed time to regroup, cry, and mourn another disappointing cycle.
This coming week should be an interesting one. My dh and I have an appointment with Dr. "it's up to the universe, man"... and yes he does say this OFTEN ... along with words like "groovy and hip". I truly believe if he starts in with his psychedelic, hippy speak, my dh is going to lose it. I'm not even sure why were going."
Doolsc to add insult to injury, my re wasn't even there the day we were scheduled for our one on one with him. No one from the office bothered to call us. It was assumed that talking with his nurse practitioner would be acceptable. My husband and I were both floored.
Also my re's success rate for my age group 38-40 dropped from 25.5% (percentage of transfers resulting in live birth) in 2006 to 17.5% with a 12% cancellation rate in 2007. The implantation rate at his clinic for 2007 (again for my age group) was 9.6%). It sucks that sart reports numbers almost 2 years behind. If we would have known how bad his numbers were, I think we would have gone somewhere else to begin with.
It's really too bad that I want to change re's... I love his office staff. The nurses and the girls up front are great.
Sorry for the long post.