I'm in the place where I'm wondering if I should tell people. On the one hand, like you said, I want to de-stigmatize infertility. I don't want it to be so "hush hush". But at the same time, I'm worried about getting stupid comments or a pity party. I already get stupid comments, though, so I dunno. (Latest one: "You must be the only one here trying to keep your figure!"
Said by older guy at church. Just about ALL the women my age are pregnant at church. I've been trying since before all but one of them.)