[theresa0604]

Hello Paula,
I saw your post and wanted to say how sorry I am to hear about your situation. The emotional toll that IF takes on an individual and a relationship can be overwhelming and the decisions that we face are often difficult and some that so many people don't understand.
If you look at my signature, you can see that my DH and I too have been on a long journey full of many ups and downs yet it was by taking that journey that we both decided that we will start our family through adoption. There were discussions about donor egg but ultimately that wasn't the path we decided to follow however we are now excited about the committment we have made to adoption.
The IF road isn't easy and there were many times that my DH and I were at different places at different times however it's pushing through that, keeping the channels of communication open and weighing ALL of your options that will ultimately result in you both making a decision about how to build your family.
There are options for you ... certainly they might not have been the ones that you envisioned for yourself and they weren't the ones that I envisioned for myself either but as I've said to my DH many times, "families are made in many ways".
Keep the faith, explore all your options including IVF if you think that is the route to take but please know that you don't have to live your lives without a child if that is what you both dearly want.

Take care of yourself ... as low as you feel right now, this too shall lessen with time and one day you'll look back and realize that all of your pain and heartache was worth it when you're holding your child. I had to tell myself that time and time again and some days I didn't believe it but I try hard to focus on the future versus the past and this helps ...
Theresa