[Sadie987]

Hello,

I have some questions for married couples who have opted to use donor sperm to conceive. My DH and I recently found out that my DH can’t have bio children. We are both devastated but still have a strong interest in having a family regardless. Well, I’m more open to it than he is, but I’m praying that he comes around. He has always said that he’s against donor sperm because it would be like another guy had sex with me and he’s afraid he will end up resenting the child and not being a good enough father because of this resentment. Especially if the child looks too much like the donor and not enough like me. Because of my STRONG desire to experience pregnancy and give birth to our child another option I’ve considered is embryo adoption. My husband is a little more open to that prospect.
Now my dilemma is that I’m starting to like the idea of donor sperm for many reasons. (I’m still open to embryo adoption though) So my questions are: how long did it take your DH to embrace the idea of donor sperm? Was he against it at 1st and then warmed up to the idea? Was he able to emotionally connect with the baby? Did the insemination upset him? Was there any resentment? When do you think you’ll tell your child that he/she is a sperm donor baby? Will you tell your family or keep it a secret? This is such a hard decision, any help would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you.