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Hi Sadie,
I am very sorry you have to be going through this. Believe me I am a basketcase too, sometimes. When we were dx in May , we were devastated. I cried for almost 2 weeks!! I still cry , but not as much. I guess because there is hope to have the family we want. Maybe it is not exactly how we wanted it, but a family is a family.
In our situation we have not used ds yet, but we may very well go that route. We have our first appointment this coming Tuesday on the 23rd. They still have to check my DH if he produces sperm at all.
I thank God everyday that my husband immediately liked the idea of donor sperm. He told me," it's not blood that makes a family." My mom is very supportive. My dad was a little negative, but I know he will get over it. It will be his grandchild either way.
I will only tell very close friends and friends that I KNOW are nonjudgmental. Some already know and are supportive and positive.
As far as telling the child, well that I am not sure. I do want to tell him/her, but the question is when. I think I rather tell the child because if they find out by someone else accidently, I think they will be hurt. So I feel ( this is my opinion) that my child should know the truth.
I know it is very hard. Today I am positive, then there are days I cry and cry. I think in time, it will get better. Once you hold that little one in your arms, I think it is not even going to matter...
KUP Sadie! Your dream of having a family WILL come true!!!
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