Hi Sadie,
My DH and I have discussed DS and he is dead set against it. I was too at first, but reading a lot of threads here has opened up my mind to it. At first I thought, our baby is either going to be both of us or neither of us. But then, I came accross this article in Redbook written by a guy who's azoospermic and he and his DW chose to use DS. It wasn't a long article and it wasn't written with that much emotion, but I cried my eyes out just the same. (It seems just about anything having to do with parenthood, children and infertility has open up the floodgates these days. )Here's the link:
Choosing a Sperm Donor Dad - Story of Male Infertility - Redbook. (I hope I pasted that right. If not, google 'Redbook' and 'azoospermia' and it's the first link that pops up.) In the end, he doesn't see his DNA or someone elses DNA in his child, he sees the love and connection that they have, despite the fact that they don't have DNA in common.
From what I've read from other posts and on other websites is that men may take a little longer to come around to the idea of using DS. I can see how guys would kind of be protective in the sense that they don't want any other guy near their wife, even if it's anonymous and simply just DS. I don't know if that's my husband's deal or not. He's reluctant to talk about it and justs want to wait til we get his biopsy results back (UR suspects OA
).
I'll
he comes around and you can both be on the same page. I have a feeling though, that once he's by your side during
and there to witness the miracle of birth, any resentment he may have thought he would have had, would hopefully disappear. That article would be good for him to read too.
Sending
your way, no matter how it gets to you!!!
