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Originally Posted by starfsh25
I also love, "Are you sure you're not pregnant right now? You have a glow." The glow you are referring to is anger.
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Okay, I'm not sure if this was meant to be funny, but the way I read it made me crack up!
Well, I am even more frustrated now, because I don't feel like DH's parents understand our struggles at all. My parents have been far more supportive in this whole thing, and it was actually my dad who pushed us in the IVF direction. When we told DH's parents about our considerations, they were less than pleased. FIL even had a conversation with DH about how he, as a Christian, could consider IVF when there are children starving in the world. How could we, as Christians, have the TV we have, the car we have (used and 5 years old, btw), the house we have ($55,000!), etc. We are not big spenders by any means, and I feel that we are modest in our spending. He just looks for every way he can to consider us hypocrites, because he doesn't want to feel bad about himself not going to church. (He stopped going when DH was a child, but his wife still goes, and now his son (my husband) is a youth pastor.)
Backstory: For a long time now, FIL has been telling me if we ever need any money, he will give it to us. He has a bunch in savings, and he has given his daughter $15,000 to help her get out of debt. He keeps bringing this up to me, so I thought, "Great! We will have a way to pay for IVF!" DH has been warning me all along that his dad will lend us money, but hold it over our heads for forever, and I didn't want to believe that. His father made it sound like DH was too proud to ask for money, but that he's really there for us. After DH relaying the conversation with his father to me, and after both FIL and MIL's reactions to the idea of IVF, I regret doubting DH, and I now think he was totally right. We won't be asking them to help us financially at all with this infertility process, which will probably bite us in the butt, too, because they will be offended we
didn't ask.
Whew! Sorry, had to get that off my chest!
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Me: 26, Normal except for small partial uterine septum.
DH: 24, Good count, poor-normal motility, and 0-6.5% morphology, depending on the SA. Level 1 varicocele found.
2 years of TTC. 
10/09--DH's varicocele surgery successful! Now we wait to see if SA improves. Next SA 1/10.
