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It was a hard decision to use a sperm donor vs. adopting...but once we decided with donor sperm the decision to go with an unknown donor was an easy decision...dont get me wrong...we talked about using a family member...but DH is an only child...he has one male 1st cousin...who was big time into drugs a few years ago...now as strange as it sounds we did consider using DH's step dad...who of corse would not have the same genes...but the whole "he would be the granddad and the 'father' " just did not set at all with me...in wanting to keep the fact that we are using a donor a very priviet issue...involving family members would not make that an easy task...so in the end we used the sperm bank that my RE suggested...it was strange picking him out...both DH and i did it seperatly first and then together we discovered that we both had the exact same fisrt and second pick...and we were able to get the first pick...is it still strange...YES...but DH is very ready to do this as am i...and in the end...not only will we have a baby...but i will have been able to experence having a baby...and that is really a big thing to me...B
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