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Old 08-26-2006, 11:40 AM
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Heart a life without children?

I am often asked what I will do if I'm never able to have children. When I am asked this, it's all I can do to not fall completely apart. Probably because I cannot imagine my life without children.

I mean, I usually pull myself together enought to say something like, I can't imagine my life without children and we will keep trying until we know in our hearts that it's time to stop trying.

As most of you know, we cannot afford IUI, IVF or adoption. So we just TTC with Follistim and an HCG trigger shot. We hope to be able to afford this for at least three more months. Then we will probably continut TTC naturally until we feel that my age is becoming too much of a problem/risk. I didn't want to be this old of a mother anyway, but we have to strongly consider my age in the next year or so.

Again, this is where I hope you can learn from me. We started TTC when I was 35, I am now 41, we NEVER imagined it would go on this long. We SO wish we'd gotten aggressive earlier. We are SO sorry we listened when we were told it was "unexplained infertility." I really don't believe there is any such thing. I think that is a completely lazy diagnosis and if you've been told that is what you "have," PLEASE seek help from another doctor.

I just wondered how those of you who do not yet have children handle it when you are asked this.

Thanks for you time and consideration.

Love,
Julie
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me 44, DH 35
08.2000 started TTC
2001-2005 "unexplained IF," countless failed clomid cycles

02.14.05 miscarriage
09.17.05 miscarriage
11.07.05 PCOS diagnosed (2000 Metformin ER)
05.29.06 IUI #1 - failed
06.23.06 IUI #2 - failed
10.06.06 NI + follistim #4 - failed
end of treatment
TTC au natural...

11.22.06 BFP
12.20.06 cornual pregnancy ended @ 9 weeks (miscarriage)
02.06.07 ok to TTC again
11.2007 low ovarian reserve
01.2008 TTC au natural still...

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08.2008 hoping to adopt (domestic newborn)

10.24.08 1st home study meeting
11.14.08 2nd home study meeting (the dreaded home visit)
11.21.08 meeting with adoption attorney
12.05.08 3rd home study meeting
12.24.08 received finalized Home Study report!
waiting to be matched...


A Family is Born: adoption blog

infertility reality blog

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Hope gets us to the bridge, faith will get us across. ~ my friend’s grandma
I have been pregnant, I WILL have a baby! ~ Julie


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