[biggsista]

Hubby and I have had some terrible fights ourselves lately and we have been married for over 12 years..

After a recent argument we were at an anniversary party and I was looking at my husband from a distance and he was watching some young kids dancing on the dance floor, his eyes were welling up and I could see the hurt on his face and although he never said anything, I knew exactly at that moment how much this is truly having an effect on him too. I never realized..he has not really let it be known..

When we are hurting we definately hurt the ones we love. Alot of times I have had to take a step back or two and realize that "This" is a terrible stress on the best of marriages.

The best thing that you both can do is try to make some neutral time together like Jenn said..continue to do some things that you enjoyed doing together before all this "stuff" came into play.

I'm not downplaying what husbands go through by any means, its just that they dont have to go through what we do, so there will never be that total "understanding" We are going through the crazy hormones, shots, pills, blood tests, invasive test after test, questions from others and the list goes on... Use this forum to your advantage.

I know that when and if the time comes, this will all have been worth the struggle and down the line we will be a stronger couple than most we know. If we can get through this we can get through anything!