[wewishforbaby]

Wow, i'm totally blown away by your story.

Your step-mom sure is a piece of work and for your dad to have to continue to pay and then when he goes, you guys have to pay the burden is inconceivable to me! I would bring her up on charges for all the abuse she did to me as a child! You and your sister should take her up in court, maybe you both have some recourse.

In regards to your husband, it really sounds to me like you are both going through normal adjustments. Unfortunately, when you talk to people they make you think that marriage should be this perfect set up...one shouldn't argue, fight or go through hardships, but I find that hardtimes are very normal in relationships...it actually makes you grow.

now, if you are constantly insulting each other, being physically or mentally abusive, then it's time to go, but if your husband tunes you out sometimes and you get into your arguments, then that's a whole other situation.

If you are second guessing ttc with your DH, then I'd say go see a counselor either together or by yourself, explore your feelings a bit and go from there.

Good luck with everything.