[jnem]

Dear Jenine,

OH BOY YOU TOUCHED A HEART STRING FOR ME..PLEASE don't take this as rude or condisending as it comes from the heart...You see Jenine my own mother had (has) a similiar story to yours and from the eyes of her first child I will say to you what I would have said to her before she had me...GET THERAPY MOM! Not just for your marraige but for you and you future children! You've been thru too much not to need it. My mother doesn't stop talking EVER! And if you think you are sensitive to your husband not listening to you what are you going to do when your children won't listen? My mother did exactly what you said; turn into a controlling nagging intolerant woman living by herself in a studio apt. but then it got worse after she alienated everyone around her she became a stalker to me and my DH and DD ...she spies on me, she calls my doctors, she goes through my home when I am not there, she calls my house umpteen times a day leaving 1/2 hour voice mail messages. She has a compulsion to give her opinion/instruction on every topic, subject no matter major or miniscule of an issue. I love my mom but no one can stay in a room with her past that 4 1/2 minute rant that your DH cut in at. My 4 yr old DD her own granddaughter rolls her eyes and walks away. Jenine this is a horrible, horrible way to live so please please get therapy if not to save your marraige but to save you relationships with your future children. For the record, I commend you for being able to carry on and make a life for yourself BUT the damage of your childhood runs way DEEP-too deep to escape without scars. You don't want to pass the rippling waves over to your children, it would be best if you delt with issues before TTC. Good luck to you I wish you, DH and your future children all the best.

Jen