[Nuti-Lady]

I have lived with infertility for many years. When I met DH he said he was fine with not having children etc. Dealing with 'knowing it was me' was something I got used to. However, in the process of trying for IVF last year we learnt that DH had a low sperm count. Suddenly DH turned the whole thing into 'it's all about him' ... I found this very very hurtful as I felt that he completely negated all the emotions etc I had dealt with over the years. He started implying to friends that the reason we dont have a family is because of his low sperm count, then I noticed he started to get angry about it. When speaking to him he said that he felt he was letting me down and felt helpless in the TTC process. He suddenly became focused on TTC naturally. My main reason for responding to your post is that I had to change
MY perspective ... I now had to deal with my DH's emotions and thoughts. The biggest change was when I actually aknowledged his concerns and listened to him without my own agenda. I am not sure if this feedback helps, but it certainly brought us closer in the process.