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Originally Posted by sarah16

When are you ladies going to give up this quest to have more than one child? My husband and I have decided already that we are going to do 3 IUIs but no IVF or adoption. If we don't have another one we are going to take our daughter on wonderful vacations each year with the money we are saving. Do you have a set time line or are you just going with the flow?

Wow, I almost don't really know how to take that question. I am dealing with secondary IF, my daughter is 13. But my DH has never even experienced the joy of pregnancy and an infant of his own. We both love my (our) daughter to death, but we want to share one together as well, not to mention my daughter would love to have a brother or a sister, she has been wanting that for a long time. I guess we will give up if the burning desire ever goes away, but it hasn't yet, so we are going to keep trying. I believe it a personal decision. But for whatever the reasons are for people to keep trying, I say do what your heart desires, and I am here to support you all the way. Your question might come off kind of harsh to some that are very sensitive on this site. I am sure you didn't mean it in a mean way, but it is a little un-nerving on the first reading of it. I by no means mean to offend anyone by saying how I perceived it at first, I apologize if I am misconstruing anything. IF is very sticky, we come here to support one another, it is hard enough dealing with people in person sometimes with some of the things they say, so we should be king of careful of sounding callous on the site, this place is the only place some of us find comfort and the feeling of understanding in this hard battle. Sometimes we are more sensitive to it than other times. Hugs to everyone here.