[mcat1298]

I didn't take your posting in a negative way, although I can see how some people would have. I took it as more of an expression of how much you are struggling with this right now and how you just don't know how long you can keep going. And that's okay. It's perfectly okay to not know when/if the journey will come to an end if you are not able to conceive a second child.
It's hard for many to know when their plan is to stop at a certain point b/c once you get there, I do think that many people would tell you that they hadn't planned to go as far as they have...yet they do b/c they want to feel complete and have a family if at all possible.

Now, all that said, I do have an end to my journey mapped out. We have decided to do 2 more injectible iuis (after this one) and if we still aren't pregnant we will stop.
My reasons are that we just don't have the finances to try any more than that and we aren't comfortable with or have finances for ivf -- I think it's WONDERFUL technology and i'm not saying no one should utilize it. It's just that we have two children and want a third. If we were to do ivf, chances are that we would end up with some frozen embies. I don't want to freeze embies b/c I will not discard and don't feel comfortable donating my embies for research or embryo donation. So if we did ivf, got pregnant, and had leftover embies, that would force me into the decision to try for a 4th or more child b/c I don't want them to just sit frozen indefinitely. I don't know if this makes sense or not. I mean, if we end up with twins from this inj cycle i just did, i would feel blessed, but we aren't 'trying' for more than one more child. I will feel complete with 3 children and don't want to feel pressured into using frozen embies at some point. inj iui is our only option. We've done 4 unmed iuis, 6 clomid iuis, and now 1 inj iui. We have 2 to go before we'll put an end to our journey.
We may choose to adopt some day, but I want to be 100% confident that we are making that choice b/c we want to, not b/c it's the 'last resort'. So i will not make that choice until my husband and I are 100% ready.

Hope that makes sense. lol