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So this IF thing is really starting to get to both my DH and myself as well as our marriage. We got into a heated discussion last night about BDing and how it shouldn't be planned and that I am getting obsessed and taking it way out of control. I was so hurt and felt so unsupported during our whole conversation. I tried to explain to him that as un-romantic that it was that we needed/should have sex last night to increase our chances of making our baby. He doesn't get that. He thinks that it should just happen and we shouldn't be on meds and calculating our times of intercourse. I attribue all of this to his naive idea of what and how a woman gets pregnant. He is the father to a beautiful little 8 year old boy, who was conceived accidentally while his partner was on BC and he wearing protection at 17 years old. I on the other hand have bend over backwards researching and learning about everything that goes on with a woman's body each month. I tried to explain the process and what our bodies are doing, but he doesn't really get it or seem like he is interested in it. I am beginning to feel like this hope and dream WE have shared for so long has turned into something I only want now and not him. He is of coarse telling me otherwise, but I still can't help but wonder if he really means it or not.

Does anybody else have problems like this or is my DH simply the only one with less of a desire to BD on a schedule?