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Originally Posted by sunny72

Okay my friends, I'm having a hard time trying to make a decision. I've probably mentioned that my family overseas want to have a family reunion maybe in Hawaii (half way point for everybody). It's been over 7 years since we were all together, sibling 'n all. I already postponed a potential trip in September, and now they are considering November. There's really no pressure, but the pressure I am putting on myself to please everyone, and that I really do miss then all and want to see them. Selfishly, I wish it could still be September now, but of course if can't be at short notice. Afterall, the world doesn't always revolve around me.

However, I have this burning desire to try the FET in September. I don't need to explain to you guys, that every month since like a year when TTC, so waiting until after the potential Hawaii trip is almost unfathomable. I said to DH that we could do both. If we're lucky that it works and I fall pregnant, we could still fly to Hawaii, I think plenty of people fly in the first trimester. But he's against it. He says that he's in the radiation business, and he thinks after all this, we shouldn't consider doing a longhaul flight etc..

Is he just being a party-pooper, or being the sensible one. Darn it, I want to do both things NOW. I'm not patient at the best of times, and they are both very important. I told my sister last night that maybe we could book flights but cancel last minute if we get pregnant, and they can still all hang out together, but now I can't find reasonable flights that you can cancel/change.

Okay, sorry for the long story about a trivial matter. Any thoughts???

Here are my thoughts... they're unusually pessimistic for me... so I'm wondering if reason isn't taking over optimism...

I went ahead with my cycle right before we went to Puerto Rico for the 4th of July. June 26th, they gave me a methotrexate shot for an ectopic... my vacation was almost cancelled. I spent my entire vacation trying to keep my mind off the fact that I just lost a baby... but to no avail. No pina coladas, no sun, no advil, no sex... my vacation might as well have been cancelled. In the event that some unmentionable thing happens, you will be very far from your doctors... relying on whatever medical staff they have in Hawaii. Best advice? Wait until you come home to try again. Ahh... there's that word I despise... wait.