Sometimes I think that it's harder for men to understand and be supportive and compassionate because it is not
their body that it is happening to...or failing to happen to. When you think about the way that men are wired...they are somewhat selfish and in their brains they can't wrap themselves around the idea of IF...especially if they are not the "problem." By no means am I trying to tell you that you are wrong or that he is right, but my dh and I have too struggled with this IF issue and feeling resentment and obcession with it and so on. And the only thing that has gotten me through it has been redirecting my thinking. We are going through so much already with being infertile, then to have to think about dealing with your dh emotions and struggles with it as well is tough...especially because they are dealing with it in a different capacity than we are.
Just like we have feelings of resentment for other women who get pregnant at the drop of a hat or have like 8 kids, men probably experience some of those feelings towards us. I think that is natural, but needs to be dealt with senstively and carefully. You love your dh and it is obvious that he loves you being that he wants a baby with you so badly. You two are worth fighting for and helping each other through this issue. Seek counseling and I think that your Dr. might be able to help you both sort out your feelings together and come to some closure for the time being. Good luck to you and stay STRONG!
to us all!