I am so sorry...I think the stress of IF can affect any marriage....it sounds like maybe seeking counseling (I know that there are IF counselors out there or even a marriage and family counselor) may be your best solution...also maybe sitting down with one another and really talking it out will help. It sounds like he is stressed as much as you but has been wanting to be strong but has not dealt with it....I know that when we found out it was me I asked my DH if he resented me for this problem I had and he informed that when we got married whatever problems arise that it is our problem not just one of ours....it has taken me a while to understand that is our problem and not just mine. Maybe your DH is still coming to terms with it....Good Luck and just know that we are all here for yoU!
