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First of all congratulations on your baby. Secondly, it is difficult to understand what a person suffering from infertility goes through unless you've been there yourself. While you might be supportive and say you can understand it really is something unlike anything. I too have gone through this stage and as long as you keep loving your friend she'll get through it. What happens is a depression that comes from seeing others have what you have prayed for, longed for and hoped for. It isn't an anger at you but can be a fear of how she'll respond or act in the situation. Baby showers can be especially difficult with the showers of gifts and love for the new baby. There is fear, anger, jealousy, bitterness, and depression that can grab a person and make them into someone they've never been. Not everyone handles their emotions the same way. One bit of advice I have is talk to your friend, tell her that you'll always be there to support her (only if you truly are), don't flaunt your baby in front of her knowing that it's a hard thing for her to see. Just get her to talk to you, really let it all out and hope that with it brings healing. Tell her she can tell you what she's feeling and if she's jealous or angry or bitter you won't hold it against knowing that it's something you can't begin to imagine but that you want to help in any way you can. I hope this isn't the end of your friendship but only time will tell.
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