[rexie]

I'm going to say the same as everyone else and suggest you think about this until you can't think about it anymore.

When one of my friends got pregnant accidentally, I was so hurt by it. Much more hurt than even I realized until after I myself got pregnant. She was the last of my friends to get pregnant and I had started before ALL of them. So her pregnancy hit me especially hard. Subconsciously, I found myself detaching myself from her pregnancy and her child. I realize now how much of her daughter's life I've missed, but it took my friend's unbridled joy for me when I got pregnant to realize how detached I really was. She was buying my girls presents from the moment I told her I was pregnant. I barely even acknowledged her daughter's birthdays.

My point is that I now feel terribly guilty about it. I fully understand why you wouldn't want to go. It'll be very, VERY hard for you and I myself wouldn't want to do it. In fact, I'd probably be hurt that my friend asked me and would insist she was being insensitive. However, if you think for even a second you might feel guilty for saying no somewhere down the line, I'd do it despite all the pain. Just make sure you'll be in the position to cry later that evening and have a feel-good activity lined up for the next day.

Hope that helps a bit.

Natalie