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Hello!
I'm another soon-to-be single mother. I thought I'd share my story. Like Lilac, I've always known that I wanted children. I got married when I was 29 and recently out of graduate school, and I naively thought my life was on track. But at about the time I got married, my mom started going downhill with terminal cancer. My husband, bless his small heart, couldn't deal with it and began partying his *** off and told me he didn't want children. (He had said, like me, he wanted two kids before we got married.) Two years later, my mom died and I got divorced in the space of about 3 months. I was 32.
I also thought that Mr. Right would eventually find his way into my life. But when that didn't happen by the age of 36, I started panicking. I'd wake up in a sweat, thinking I was never going to be a mother. So, at the age of 37, I decided to try to conceive on my own. I went to a very good guy friend of mine who is younger than I, really smart, good looking, and very self-centered. I told him my plan and that I thought maybe he was egotistical enough to want to procreate, but too self-absorbed to actually be a parent ... He was perfect! He agreed to be an altruistic donor, and since we are both lawyers, we drafted up an agreement. Six months after trying, I got pregnant, but miscarried at 7 weeks. It was a partial molar pregnancy, so doomed to fail. I tried another six months, three with Clomid, and had only one chemical pregnancy. So I moved on to ART.
As you can see from my signature. My iui's and ivf's didn't work. (Again, two chemicals.) For some reason, I feel that my body reacts badly to all of the synthetic hormones. So my RE suggested donor embryos. I was sad at giving up the dream of having a biological child. I think it has something to do with having lost my mother. I wanted a piece of her to continue in this world. But more important that having a biological child is having a child. So I agreed. I am currently six weeks pregnant.
Just so you ladies know, most of the "agencies" that handle donor embryos will not deal with single women. Fortunately, I was able to go through my RE practice. The embryos I was given are the result of an egg donor of my exact ethnicity and a biological father of irish descent.
So that is my story!
I'm so glad to meet a group of women going through the same thing. I actually have a single friend here who is just now starting to try the same thing. I'm taking her tomorrow for her first iui! I'll tell her to log on to this thread so she can enjoy your support as well.
Good luck to all of you (us!)
And Merry, Merry Christmas.
Kathryn.
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