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This should be the most popular thread. I always have to remind myself that my husband cannot be all things to me. He will never fulfill the "dream husband" role and I doubt any of ours will. They might want children for different reasons than we do (more than likely). We are different in how we look at things, what we want, etc. I look for coexistence in my marriage where there is some overlap in the middle and our own individuality on the edges. When I married my husband he had the same things going on that he does now...we all knew what we were getting ourselves into. You have to decide if the good outweighs the bad. Quite frankly, all men or partners (for that matter) are going to offer good and bad...things you can't stand and things you can't live without. Mine can't fix a darned thing around the house (a fixer upper he just HAD to have), but he's one heck of a father and I know that there is one more person in this world that loves my child just as much as me. So I guess we can't expect all things from one person...we can get some of the other things we need from friends and family (and maybe a paid handyman!) and just appreciate that we are all human, with flaws and all.
He won't stop being a baby probably. Maybe he will be less of a baby. Him being so childlike may come in handy for you where your child is concerned. You aren't catching me on the floor rolling around and wrestling, etc. Your child will benefit from your differences and your similarities.
You are not alone. Regular counseling is a step in the right direction...and then...a good healthy dose of tolerance!
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