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Hey deej, I am in a very similar position myself. I am gay tho I don't "look it" so I often get alot of ??s as to why I'm not married or dating a guy (from ppl who don't know me well) and ppl that do know me sometimes think I should wait just in case I meet someone. Well ya know what.......I'm 32 and personally I don't want to wait till I am about 40 to TTC. Nothing against anyone who does for whatever reason but for me, I wanted to start now. I wish sometimes that I had someone to share this journey with......I really do. But I don't and I have to focus on the reality of my situation. I have my own place, a great career, I'm educated, have a nice circle of friends, a cool puppy, and my parents are still married. So I have alot of blessings that others may not have, and vice versa. I try to remember those when i feel down. I think the more confident I am when talking to ppl about it, the better responses I get. Even on days when I don't feel so great I dont let ppl in on it, unless it's my closest friends who know me inside & out. I am trying to surround myself with good ppl, good friends, and that's all I need. I had one very close "friend", or so I thought, who told me the only reason I wanted a family was for attention and bec my other friends are having kids. I was like, WTF? Anyone who knows me, esp my close friends, know that I've ALWAYS wanted a family, single or not. That really hurt, but she's kind of a jerk anyway and it gave me a reason to severe the ties. She was also the only friend of mine who was unsupportive when I was an egg donor. She thought it was messed up and weird and she would've asked for $100k bef she'd do smthg like that. So it's like, consider the source.
Stay positive and you can always PM me if you want. Being a counselor during the day, I'm available after hours sometimes too, LOL!!! Have a great week!
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