[dherbert]

InfertilityCrushed2,

Wow, this post brought tears to my eyes. I think I can vouch for all of the women on here, that all of our marriages have at one point been in turmoil due to infertility. Sometimes you have to lose someone before realizing how much you had to begin with. I truely believe if you tell your wife your true feelings like you have told us, that she will give you another chance. You most definately need to go back to counseling and stick with it!! The one thing you must remember is infertility is not something you blame on one another, it is a disease that you treat and hopefully rcover from with reaching the goal at pregnancy in the end. It sounds like you at least have the option of IVF where as some couples have no options except living childfree or adoption. Tell your wife your fears about infertility and how much you love her and always have. I totally understand you wanting to protect the ones you love and infertility is something totally out of your control. You may not have control of infertility, but you can protect your wife by standing beside her and walking this long journey together. one day after your child is born you will look back and see how much closer you became as a couple! This will either make you or break you as a couple, please dont let it break you marriage or your spirit. This site is great to communicate with people going through the same things you and your wife are, maybe you can suggest she come on and finds some peolpe to talk to.
Good Luck with your marriage. I hope you guys are able to work things out.