[jenedens6102]

Wow, you told the story of your situation very well. The words touched me. Infertility is such a crushing blow to any relationship and it's not uncommon for men and women to be on different pages from time to time. As you said you were raised as a man to provide for your family, to take care of others and fix things. My husband feels the same way and it was an even worse blow to him because our situation was male factor - he couldn't fix himself to give me what I wanted (or so he thought back then). I would definitely suggest talking to your wife, let her know all that you've told us. Offer to go back to counseling, if not together then you yourself as there are issues to be resolved (we all have them). Let her know that you married her for her and if a child isn't in the plans that's ok. Hopefully she can understand and see that. Sometimes there is just a need for a break in the trying and the fertility journey to work on getting back to YOU - the way things were before. I tell you, our year and a half break was the absolute best thing for us. The stress was just too much on us physically, emotionally, mentally and we were losing each other - we had to get back to the beginning, remember why we fell in the love, the people we were before infertility took over. I hope you can do the same.