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Hi there,
The ladies before me have said it all, your post brought tears to my eyes. I feel that my marriage is at the stage that yours probably was last year. I feel that my husband and I are growing further and further apart each day over IF. At the moment, we don't see eye to eye on IF. We will start our rounds of IUIs next month for a couple of months. If we are not pregnant by the end of those cycles, we will stop trying. This is what my husband wants. He believes that if we don't get pregnant, then we were not meant to be parents. He is OK with living childfree. I am not. Like the post before mine, for some women, the need to be a mother is natural and cannot be explained. I am open to IVF and for adoption as well. Those options are completely out for him (for emotional, religious, and financial reasons).
So, I have some questions for you. And these are not meant to cause you further pain. Maybe your answers will help me save my marriage. In the beginning, did you want to be a father? If so, why didn't you fight for this right as strongly as your wife? What exactly about the IF process that 'broke' you and made you change your mind about proceeding further? If your desire to be a parent wasn't strong before, why is it now? Because you are afraid of losing your wife?
Please don't be offended by my questions. It is just that I think my husband maybe withdrawing as you did. I want to be a mother, but a wife as well.
Kerben
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