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I really really hope what I'm about to say doesn't upset you more than you already are but it sounds like right now, this very moment what DW needs is time and space. It may sounds nuts since you needing space broke you guys up but if she is as hurt and angry and heart broken as I'm sure she is then calling/writing/sending flowers isn't going to help. If she thinks all your heart felt gestures are just you trying to "manipulate the situation and use her heart against her" she may be in too much pain to let herself feel anything good about you right now. I haven't endured half of the trials and trubulation some of these women have with IF but dh and I had a bad "episode" not long after our baby was born and I was more than ready to go to lawyer and file for divorce, fortunately for both of us this happened on a Friday night and I would have to wait till Monday to start making my calls. Anyway in that time (away from him and not talking/fighting and just me with my thoughts) I was able to gather myself. I thought about him, why I married him, why I loved him, the type of man he is, the type of dad he is to my daughter and our baby and on Monday the only call I made was to a marriage counselor. Had we been in each other's face (either literally face to face or even on the phone) I don't think I would have decided to reconcile. The old analogy comes to mind "time heals all wounds" and while you don't want to leave her mind or heart pushing yourself to be there may be making her more resentful. I have to say your post made me cry while reading and I was hoping as I read the newer posts that things would have gotten better. I still will hope and pray for you and dw that everyone's heart heals enough so that you both can be happy. I also recommend conuseling even if it's just you for now. Please keep us posted!
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