I am sorry for your situation, however I have to agree with Mom2mandyandtristan. It you're texting her in the middle of the night and sending her stuff perhaps it's a bit much for her. She needs time to think, adjust and just reflect.
I know you're a planner but you can't plan this one out and you can't fix it with a plan. It's all about the heart and soul. Give her some space. Stop sending stuff, don't text and just try to give her her time. I know that if that were me and I was hurt that bad, that all that stuff would freak me out and make me even more on edge. Chill out, you can't plan everything. You probably haven't even given her a chance to think, relax and reflect on your lives together enough to call you and ask why.
God has you both in his sights. He is a good and gracious God so whatever path he lays out for you, you'll just have to walk down it and prevail.
GL! God Bless!
