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I really don't know the answer to your questions. My only advice is to make sure that you spend some time everyday doing and talking about things that aren't IF related. We try to walk everyday and spend that time talking about IF and try not to talk about it any other time. We found a TV show (last comic standing) that made us laugh our socks off when it was on and having that release really helped. Some have suggested to me previously to keep dh out of the loop as much as possible. That doesn't work for me, but it might for you.