Hi Jessica, Boy!! Sounds like you have a bit of a problem. I will be the first to say that you guys absolutely need to TALK about this. Before you approach him, why don't you make a list of your concerns and approach in a matter of fact way instead of just showing your anger. I am finding that this seems to work better with my DH. For some reason men only seem to hear nagging or feel that we are scolding them when we are upset with their behavior no matter how right we are. Try not to raise your voice ( I know this is difficult, I too have this problem) when he says something stupid or pushes your buttons. I have been reading a book that also suggest asking your spouse to repeat the question you asked them or the statement you just made in order to make sure that they not only HEAR you but UNDERSTAND what you just said. This is a serious problem because as you said you guys are trying to save money right now and it's not fair, nor will it work if only one of you abides by the rules. You have to discuss this and come up with a plan that works for both of you. One that you BOTH can stick to. Try writing down your list of things that you want to bring up first and then approach him so he doesn't take it as nagging ( most men do this no matter what but try). Make sure he understands how important this is and he takes it seriously. I know that you are angry right now and sometimes we say things we don't mean. Writing things down prevents some of that. Take your time and sort this out with him. If he can't follow the plan that you guys come up with he needs to tell you now. I will pray that you guys work this out and you get through this without saying anything you don't mean.
Big hugs coming your way!! You will work this out.
Regina
P.S. Aren't men so much fun!!! Why in the world are we trying so hard to have children when we ALREADY have one!! LOL