[Shasta18]

Originally Posted by dec30

I new here, and just need someone to talk to. My right ovary and tube were removed when I was 20, and Wednesday, my left tube will be coming out too. My husband and I will have to do IVF if we want to have children. I don't know how I feel about this yet. I'm back and fourth in mine mind about if I was meant to have children this wouldn't be happening, but then again isn't IVF here for a reason too? Why me? My best friend had her children removed from her custody because she wasn't a good mother, and yet she can good out tomorrow and get knocked up again. I'm so confused, sad, I start stupid fights with my husband for no reason, I'm afraid he's going to leave me because I can't have kids or because this making me crazy. I really want to have my own kids, but what if IVF does't work? That's money gone that could have gone to adoption. What if we don't qualify to adopt? Please, if there is ANY one who has gone through anything similar, PLEASE help me. I feel like I'm losing my mind.

I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time. Infertility is so hard and you've come to a great place for getting support. There are so many decisions to be made, whether to do treatments and if so, how many, etc. One of my good friends decided that she didn't want to do any treatments (she would've been an excellant IVF candidate) and went straight to adoption. It is something you and your husband have to sit down and talk about. Only you two can come up with the right solution for you. Good luck with this and keep us posted!