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Need advice/secondary infertility, fsh of 80, should I use donor eggs?
Hello everyone. I feel so lucky to have found this message board. I feel for each and every one of you and want to say thank you for taking the time to help me out.
I am 37 (38 next month), I had my darling daughter (DD) 3 years ago, started to try for another baby in October...just when my period decided not to show up. It hasn't shown up since! In March (after one failed Clomid cycle), I was told I had an FSH of 70 and was diagnosed with POF. Two weeks later, I saw an RE, found that my FSH has traveled to 80 and was told that I could not conceive on my own and to consider donor eggs. I decided to try on our own with Clomid (my RE said he would support me but chances were very slim of conceiving) but only ended up with 2 big cysts that are still there. My plan was to try on our own for a few months but after more research, have found it very difficult for anyone to lower your FSH from the 80's and to regain your cycle. Would acupunture help someone like me? I am, to say the least, devastated and confused.
Has anyone conceived with such a high FSH?
Has anyone regained their cycle after 7 months of not having one?
The next phase is to consider donor eggs. I was at first against the idea because I was ignorant. I have done some research, talked extensively with the donor egg coordinator at my RE office and I attened a RESOLVE conference where a panel of egg recipients and donors spoke of their stories. Since this conference, I am seriously considering an egg donor but need help/support/advice.
Will an child from an egg donor blend into our little family? Will the child feel different from his/her sister? Can we love this child as our own ( I already say yes, but can't help think about it)? Do we tell the child they are from a donor? Can I accept the idea that the child will not have my DNA? How important is it to have a sibling for our daughter? Is having one child so bad?
If anyone out there has any advice, stories or wisdom to share, I would appreciate it tremendously. I am at a crossroads and need help.
Thank you!!
Mary Beth
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Mary Beth
Age:37
FSH: 80+
Secondary Infertility, DD 3 years old
Husband: 37, great health
10/07: period missing. Why?
3/08: diagnosed with POF due to early menopause (complete surprise!). RE told me to consider donor eggs. He has no hope I can conceive on my own. I decided to try Clomid and Femara to try and catch a good cycle if I have one left.
4/08: Failed Clomid cycle, ended up with 2 persistant cysts. Waiting for cysts to go away to start Femara cycle. Trying to find answers to if we should try donor eggs for a 2nd child.
5/08: Cysts still present. Will they ever go away?
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