Erin, if you are working with an agency, then the birthmother will select the couple/family that she wants. In my profile I never stated I would stay home, in fact I said I would go back to work. I didn't for 9 months and then blessedly only part-time, but our b-mom did not know this going in, nor did I
she chose us for a variety of other reasons.
Just focus in the positives you have to give this child and not the differences from the other families.
Good Luck.