[csmgregory]

Hello to everyone. We are trying to get pregnant, and I am afraid that it won't happen. I have had trouble in the past becoming pregnant, and have had a miscarriage. I can't seem to share my sadness with my friends- one has a son turning one soon, one has two-month old twins, and one is 5 months pregnant. My husband TRIES to understand my worries, but sometimes it takes a woman's point of view.

[Want2BeAMommy]

Do not get down about it. I have had two miscarriages and sometnes it seems to me that my husband cant relate. We just began trying again and I am very nervous, but rest assured you have support from people who have been through it. Best of luck to you. Who knows maybe we will get pg together.

Good luck
Krista

[Soki]

Hi, I just wanted to say welcome to the boards. It is so different getting support from people who have BTDT (been there, done that).

Hoping for good news from you both.

[Kimbokarrie]

Hi and Welcome to the Boards!

I completly understand about the man thing- mine still doesn't really get what is going on. He is supportive when he can but he will be the first to say he is clueless. When others ask what is wrong- he just says "we can't get pregnant." He did break down and say that he does get frustrated because he can't do anything to make it better- so he is sorta understanding....

Welcome to the boards- hopefully you will get some support and understanding here.

[eternal]

Hi CS! I do know how you feel. My first miscarriage was at 9 weeks. I was totally devestated, and my husband was like "so? We'll just try again." He actually said that. I do think early miscarriages impact men less than women.

I'm really lucky in that I have two friends who are slightly older and had infertility issues. One has a daughter now, by AI and the other still regrets that they can't. But at least there are two people I can talk to who understand what I'm going through.

[coco1976]

You're at the right place! When you've got those feelings "that nobody understands" it's probably because they really can't! Either they don't have the imagination, empathy, or enough sympathy. A site like this is great to let people who have been exactly where you are right now get together and support each other.

I haven't had a miscarriage yet myself but I do have a good feeling for how devasted I would feel. And the courage to continue on! Wheww. That would be tough.

I have a friend who had a horrible miscarriage at 5 months - it was an emergency, like an etopic pregnancy but her uterus was split and the baby didn't make it. She barely did, requiring emergency surgery and follow-up surgeries.

She went on to have two more kids - beautiful, one a boy and the other a girl. I've always thought of her experience for myself should I have a miscarriage in the future. I figure is she could live through that and have kids then I will be able to, too. Or at least try!

So don't worry - you're in good company here if you need somebody who can listen and REALLY get it.